What you’re looking for on a page like this
You’re looking for evidence. Specifically, you want to know that somebody who felt as stuck as you do, who had done the reading and the therapy and still found herself back in the same place, actually got unstuck. It’s reasonable to want that before you trust anyone with this.
The one story I can tell you is my own
I was a practising Counsellor when I left my marriage. I left with my son and no plan. I had experienced family violence in childhood and in one relationship before that one. I’d spent thirty years in and out of therapy trying to understand why. I understood it very well. Understanding it had not moved it. What moved it was different work, and that’s why I do the work I do now.
The full version of that story is on the About page. I put it here because it’s the one that’s probably most relevant to you.
If it helps at all, and I genuinely hope it does, you are not the only woman who has sat with this particular kind of confusion. I have sat with it myself. On the Counsellor’s side of the room, and on the other side.
The women who come here
Before starting this Program I had been in toxic relationship after toxic relationship, and had lost all hope of ever finding a healthy relationship. Since completing this Program, I have opened myself up to the idea of dating again. This Program has empowered me to build a loving and healthy relationship with myself, through self reflection sessions, practical skills and brutal self honesty.Kara S.
Tanya did amazing breakthrough work with me. She effectively helped me to establish life values meaningful to me around health and fitness. Tanya used Time Line Therapy® to clear negative emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt. I now feel empowered to achieve my goal of being healthy in body and mind and to have the energy to achieve what I want in life.Wendy S.
Here’s something I notice about almost every woman who comes to work with me. She can explain her own pattern precisely. She knows the attachment theory. She has named the dynamic, probably more than once, to more than one professional. The explaining has never moved it. That’s not a failure of intelligence or insight. It’s just how this particular pattern works.
Of course you know what the pattern is. Knowing it was never going to be enough on its own.
Your story stays yours
Nothing is written about, quoted or published without your explicit permission. Groups aren’t recorded unless you’re told so when you book. Being helped here is never conditional on being a case study or a success story. What you share stays between us or the safe container of the group.
If you want to take a next step
The Relationship Clarity Call is 30 minutes, free, and commits you to nothing. It’s enough time to ask what you need to ask. To get a sense of whether this is a good fit or the right time. If it’s not, I’ll be up front.
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